Friends…

So it’s been awhile since we’ve had a Random Blogging. It’s been one of the worst summers of my life. And I’m counting all those teenage angst years in that summary. From the sound of things with family and friends, they haven’t fared much better either. This has become the summer to test our ability to cope and become stronger people. Or maybe not…

There are some things in life I guess I will never understand. And there are some people I will never understand. For example, a family member gets sick or injured and all of a sudden, the finger pointing begins. Why? Why do they have to blame someone? Why can’t they just accept that shit happens, sometimes we’re the ones it lands on and sometimes it lands on others? We can’t go back and change what happens, we can only learn from it and move on. There’s only one guarantee in life we get when we’re born: You will die. Everything in between is just lessons learned. Although for some, they never do learn, do they?

Then there are the ones who expect people to always cater to them. It’s all about them. Never do they consider that for once, it’s not. No apathy, no sympathy…nada, nothing unless it’s about them. They call you on the phone and spend the entire time bitching about a mutual friend. Then they call that friend to bitch about you. They do this for practically everyone they’re ‘friends’ with…until you want to puke, scream or go violent. These are the same people who will call you in the middle of the night, not giving a care you’re asleep or that you have to work in a couple of hours, just to ‘talk’. They’re having a bad day; they had a fight with their spouse etc….it’s all about THEM. The user/abuser, that’s what they are. No point in trying to reason with them either, they won’t hear you. They have absolutely no idea on what being a friend truly means.

Then there are the ones you’ll always carry with you through life. The ones that know when to listen and when to talk. The ones that make you smile when all you want to do is cry…the ones that give you the few moments of their time no matter how busy they may be. The ones that make you want to be a better person and friend just because they are. They inspire you, they support you, they love you for who you are, they give when you need it and politely refuse when you try to give back. The ones who just know when something is wrong and actually ask what it is that’s wrong. Genuinely care that something is wrong, happy when you something spectacular happens to you. The ones who want to share not just the joy of life but downs too. These are the friends that last a lifetime.

Which friend are you?